This sound familiar?
It’s the week before New Year's, you have some time off, you’re rested, thriving, in your element, and you’re excited about the future.
You grab a notepad or planner, set some goals, and whisper to yourself “This is going to be my year!”
But then you start thinking about last year's goals and the ones the year before that, and they didn’t quite work out as you hoped...
But this year will be different! Right?
It’s not their fault. It’s just the way we’ve been taught to approach goals is flawed.
Which is why in this article, I’m going to share the 8 biggest things that cause goals to fail, so that you can avoid them, and then achieve your New Year's goal this year - and all future years!
Heck... it'll work for any goals you set, so it's worth learning, even if you're not a resolution type person!
Let’s dive in.
Some people set goals that are either vague, unactionable or difficult to measure, which means they can’t reach them.
“I want to be better at X topic”.
By not having a clear focus of what they want to actually achieve, the goal just dies off, so be clear on what you want to do.
If you want to lose weight, then how much do you weigh now? What is your goal weight? How will you lose it? How long will it take?
Clarity leads to action and results.
Other people fail to hit their goals because they lack any accountability to help them follow through.
In a study by Dominican University on the impact of actions goal success, they found that people who committed to a goal, and then shared their progress with a friend, had a significantly higher ratio of success.
In fact, they measured the success rate of multiple methods of goal completion:
The accountability from having to give progress reports was the highest factor in their test! This is also why we always have accountability partners at Zero To Mastery, as it raises your chance of following through and getting results considerably!
tl;dr: If you’re setting a goal this year, be sure to tell a friend, and then check in on your progress with them each month.
Other people fail at their goals simply because they lack a path to follow. They know what they want to achieve, but have no idea how to get there.
“I want to learn to code”.
You need to have a set path of actions to take if you want to get anywhere - just like a roadmap from a to b to c.
You can map it out yourself, or cheat and follow the path of someone who has already achieved the same goal that you want.
Life can be distracting and it can be hard to focus.
It helps with focus, clarity, and resilience, and resets the brain. You’re not only more efficient when you’re on a task, but you can stay on it for longer also.
No more 2 minutes of work and then 20 minutes of TikTok! Instead it's like a super power for getting stuff done.
Fun fact: The course is continually updated with new meditations specifically for improving different areas of your life. I just added a New Year's goal setting meditation.
These 4 issues are often obvious once you spend any time trying to achieve a goal. However, these next 4 issues are often missed by people - even those with some success, and can cause recurring failures.
Many people fail at goals because they lack the motivation.
They have it at first but it dips. Sure, you can add in systems and processes to keep momentum after the motivation fades which will definitely help.
But you have to ask yourself - why was the motivation there in the first place, and why isn’t it there anymore?
Often it’s because it’s not really a goal you care about - rather, it’s a goal you just think you should care about.
Maybe you love the idea of becoming a product designer so you can lean into your creative side. But then you see everyone talking about AI and LLM's, so you think you should try and become an AI Engineer instead.
Trust your gut and do the research!
If the market for product designers was dying out (which it isn't) then sure, it might be a good idea to choose something else.
But in this case, just because another industry is the latest hype and other people are telling you that's what you should do, it doesn't mean you should immediately just jump to that.
You're much more likely to stick to learning something and reaching your goals if you have a genuine interest and curiosity in it.
Trust me on this.
It's not your fault that you might second guess your decision either. As humans our need to be loved and accepted by others quite often drives our goalposts, but it's a poor North Star.
When we were young we were dependent on those around us for our very survival. It‘s so deeply ingrained within us, that we go to great lengths to ensure that other people like us.
Often we trade in our deepest yearnings for outside approval from those who typically mean us well. Sure it isn’t wrong in and of itself to make those around us happy. But at what cost to ourselves?
If you follow the path of gaining approval as opposed to the one of staying true to your heart, you’ll end up lost and mostly unfulfilled.
If you really want to make a change in your life, you need a deeper connection to the reason behind that change or goal. As they say, it’s better to be a failure at something you love than a success at something you hate.
It may not seem like much, but when it comes to making life changes and achieving hard, long-term goals, it comes down to the difference between “I should do this” and “I choose to do this”.
One of those statements is incredibly powerful, while the other is a task on a list. It suddenly feels like ownership of your future and clarity on why you’re doing the thing.
tl;dr: If you want to hit your goals, then you need to be clear on the reason why.
Whatever your goal is, choose to do it for you, and align the reasons with your own needs. You’ll find that your follow-through and commitment will last far longer this way.
I hinted at this in the last step, but motivation (even for something you really want), will only get you so far.
You need systems, processes, and a roadmap if you want to succeed.
Make your life easier and implement these things, and you can achieve almost anything. The motivation can fade, and you can be tired, but you'll move forward until you hit that goal.
Often these systems are what separates success and failure.
Subconscious beliefs. We all have them. Thoughts and feelings that exist in the mind and influence our behavior without our knowing.
Usually caused by experiences in childhood, we don’t realize we have them, and how much they hinder us.
Money is a major one. You learn most about money from your parents. If they struggled when you grew up, then you’ll often struggle too. Simply because of your experience and relationship with it.
Even when you succeed and get a high-paid job, you can self-sabotage from a subconscious belief that you’re not worthy of it.
Another impediment could be that you strive more for perfection than you do progress.
“I’ll start a YouTube channel once I have the perfect lights, and camera set up, and know everything about editing”.
It’s the fear of failure and wanting everything to be perfect that stops us. Maybe as kids we were told not to make mistakes, and so we struggle to move forward.
Another of the biggest innate beliefs that hold a great majority of people back is that they don’t feel worthy of their dreams.
Let’s say you want to get a job at Google, but deep down inside you don’t feel you’re not good enough for it. Why would you get the position over everyone else who is, in your limiting perspective, more intelligent, confident, and savvy than you?
This type of thinking can lead you to stop in your tracks before you even get started, or ruin your chances in an interview because of your lack of confidence.
Ultimately, you create what you believe you can have, so removing these mental roadblocks is the key to succeeding. And until we bring them to the forefront and integrate them, they may keep us from what we set out to accomplish.
Technically, this is still a subconscious issue, and it seems counterintuitive but I want to bring it up.
Some people will fail because they’re unhappy with their level of success.
They work hard, know all the tips here, and are achieving their goals. However, they’re not achieving them as fast as they would like, and are constantly measuring their performance today, based on where they want to be, and not where they’ve come from.
This negative and judgemental thinking towards yourself can jeopardize your progress altogether. You give up because you’re ‘a failure’ when in reality, you’re 50% better than before.
Life is a journey. It’s not about “getting there”, because quite frankly, you’ll never get there. This mentality will mean that even when you arrive where you think you want to be, (and it’s a goal you actually want), you’ll still feel unfulfilled.
Some tips to get past this:
Hopefully, these tips have triggered some aha moments in you, and you can see where these issues have been coming up in the past.
Knowing them and having a plan to get past them is the first step to success. After that, it’s simply a matter of taking action and working towards your dreams.
This is your year.
You’ve got this, and I can’t wait to see what you achieve 😀.